During IBD, there is the following stalling mechanism if we can't proceed with assigning blocks from a 1024 lookahead window because all of these blocks are either already downloaded or in-flight: We'll mark the peer from which we expect the current block that would allow us to advance our tip (and thereby move the 1024 window ahead) as a possible staller. We then give this peer 2 more seconds to deliver a block (BLOCK_STALLING_TIMEOUT) and if it doesn't, disconnect it and assign the critical block we need to another peer.
Now the problem is that this second peer is immediately marked as a potential staller using the same mechanism and given 2 seconds as well - if our own connection is so slow that it simply takes us more than 2 seconds to download this block, that peer will also be disconnected (and so on...), leading to repeated disconnections and no progress in IBD. This has been described in #9213, and I have observed this when doing IBD on slower connections or with Tor - sometimes there would be several minutes without progress, where all we did was disconnect peers and find new ones.
The 2s stalling timeout was introduced in #4468, when blocks weren't full and before Segwit increased the maximum possible physical size of blocks - so I think it made a lot of sense back then.
But it would be good to revisit this timeout now.
This PR makes the timout adaptive (idea by sipa): If we disconnect a peer for stalling, we now double the timeout for the next peer (up to a maximum of 64s). If we connect a block, we half it again up to the old value of 2 seconds. That way, peers that are comparatively slower will still get disconnected, but long phases of disconnecting all peers shouldn't happen anymore.
Fixes #9213